Ndansi Elvis Nukam
Beyond
Blames
Bedwetting, childhood shame, and what families can do differently.
Beyond Blames · 2026
The book
Beyond Blames.
Beyond Blames is a book about bedwetting, but really it is a book about shame, childhood, and the quiet ways families pass pain down. It tells the story of different cultures across continents and how each responds when a child wets the bed.
Elvis wrote it as a father, as a former bed-wetter who carried the secret for years, and as a public-health practitioner who believes that public-health problems hide in private moments. It is the companion to DryNight because the technology and the conversation need each other.
The book has completed three rounds of editorial review, including an edit in London.
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The founder
I wet the bed until I was twelve.
I grew up in Cameroon. My grandparents tried everything: raw okra, anthills, every remedy the village knew. Nothing worked. I stopped going to boarding school so no one would find out. I became the cleanest, most driven student I could be, because I was convinced no one could ever know what I was hiding at night.
Now my nine-year-old son wets the bed every night. His is more severe than mine. I refuse to shame him the way I was shamed. But the best alarms on the market still have cords, still detect moisture after the fact, still fail him.
So I started building what I wish I had. DryNight begins with my son, but the standard is broader: a child should not have to be wet before the system understands that help is needed.
Ndansi Elvis Nukam
· Founder & CEO, DryNight